Hello, Zebra! Hello, Oreo!
I can't sleep so I just gave myself a manicure and painted my fingernails black.
I'm tempted to add white zig zag stripes as a homage to the days when mean kids called me "zebra".
Then again, if I only do one white stripe down the middle I could embody the moments they called me "Oreo".
The funny thing about being called an Oreo, especially in second or third grade, was that I didn't exactly know what an Oreo was. My mom believed in healthy eating so anything with sugar in it, including Oreos, never darkened our door.
When I did find out what an Oreo was, I didn't see what was so bad about being called one since I thought they tasted pretty good. I remember one girl finally breaking it down to me at recess, explaining that I was black on the outside but white on the inside. The creamy white filling that was, to my palate, the best part of an Oreo cookie was, to her and so many others, the worst thing about me. I was often treated me as if I'd come to school looking like Linda Blair in the Exorcist.
Sticks and stones can break my bones, and names can hurt. Almost 30 years later and I still remember, even when I'm doing something as inane as painting my nails black.
I always wonder... What ended up happening to those kids that used to call me those names? Do they remember doing so? And gosh, I wonder if any of them ended up in interracial relationships or with children that could be called Oreos or zebras?
How prevalent today is this sort of teasing for school kids who are mixed/biracial?
I'm tempted to add white zig zag stripes as a homage to the days when mean kids called me "zebra".
Then again, if I only do one white stripe down the middle I could embody the moments they called me "Oreo".
The funny thing about being called an Oreo, especially in second or third grade, was that I didn't exactly know what an Oreo was. My mom believed in healthy eating so anything with sugar in it, including Oreos, never darkened our door.
When I did find out what an Oreo was, I didn't see what was so bad about being called one since I thought they tasted pretty good. I remember one girl finally breaking it down to me at recess, explaining that I was black on the outside but white on the inside. The creamy white filling that was, to my palate, the best part of an Oreo cookie was, to her and so many others, the worst thing about me. I was often treated me as if I'd come to school looking like Linda Blair in the Exorcist.
Sticks and stones can break my bones, and names can hurt. Almost 30 years later and I still remember, even when I'm doing something as inane as painting my nails black.
I always wonder... What ended up happening to those kids that used to call me those names? Do they remember doing so? And gosh, I wonder if any of them ended up in interracial relationships or with children that could be called Oreos or zebras?
How prevalent today is this sort of teasing for school kids who are mixed/biracial?
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I recently moved from CA to PA and I'm a bit shocked at how often I've been characterized as an "white on the inside, black on the outside" here. I've got assume that if grown ass individuals think its ok, it has to be going on with children in schools...still.
LOL, I like this name you've given yourself. Very wise words from a wise woman Whether we realize it or not, the words DO break our hearts.
The downside of black nail polish is it shows every single chip. I like it but not sure how long it'll last. ;)
Delimited Addiction
Not off topic at all. I think a lot of kids of African descent who speak correct English, do well in school, etc., often get the Oreo name -- or at least others like it.
Wow, Cali to PA is quite a move. I'm sure there are a LOT of changes.
Sharifa,
They are definitely more common. I noticed when I was home that there were more multiracial kids. Not sure what my boys think. -- They're still talking about the lady that got mad because she couldn't touch my hair and how if they ever see her again, they're going to step up and defend me. ;)
And kharma is real. No question. The girls who were horrid to me because I was half irish, short, or sick have all fallen victim to kharma and what I realised is they made me a stronger person. However there were days in my past where I was not so strong due to those experiences, and some of those memories are even worse...
As for more biracial children and interracial couples - I am NEVER the only one at the playground who fits that description - and I just got my Dunkin Donuts coffee with a family in line behind me who did as well. Maybe that is just my town I don't know - but the cultural mix of our classroom is wonderful and I feel blessed.
I certainly hope I never have to explain the oreo comment to my daughter, and I hope I can guide her to avoid being one of the kids causing others pain.
As for the nail polish - my daughters friend came over yesterday with black nail polish - she swirled white into it to create the yin-yang symbol. Brilliant.
I also grew up in France - thing is, while people didn't say anything about my skin colour, I often heard things like: "Oh to me, you're white" "You're not like the others."
To this day, I still don't know what to do with that. So I try not to think about it.
I absolutely believe the cutting words made me stronger -- I can never walk in a room and ignore the person who is treated like an outcast. I guess I empathize with them more. Black nail polish swirled with white! I like!
D,
You ever ask folks what the heck they mean when they say that? -- Then again, having heard that sort of thing my entire life...I know what they're trying to say. Loving Depeche Mode certainly confirmed the suspicions of "whiteness" -- although I think marrying a black man and having black children has maybe given me a little more "black" cred.
Adam,
I laughed so hard thinking about the stories I've heard of you all dressing up as ninjas. I can't even imagine the culture shock of having to move from Evanston to Northbrook. I can only imagine how you must've been teased. -- But I hope your experience will become more of the norm.