tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8010473.post-64042853366707441292008-05-09T17:09:00.000-07:002008-05-09T17:09:00.000-07:002008-05-09T17:09:00.000-07:00I was in Denver International Airport one day and I saw this black grandmother say to her 10 years old grandson: "This is what I expect from you. You will say "please" and "thank you". You will stay by me when we are in public." and on and on.<BR/><BR/>And I thought, "That's exactly what a kid that age needs."<BR/><BR/>In the Open Grove, I interviewed a man who is a very famous parenting expert. His advice? Tell your kids what you want, not what they are doing wrong. Then he challenged me - watch parents. They say 'no', 'don't do that', 'get down'. They never say, 'sit right here with me', 'I need to talk to Daddy, wait for me here.' etc.<BR/><BR/>And you know what? He's right. <BR/><BR/>I don't think kids are afraid of being beaten or getting in trouble, I think they know what's expected of them. So they do that.<BR/><BR/>Heck, I found the more clear I was about what I expected from Rose, our dog, the better behaved she was. Go figure.On a limb with Claudiahttp://on-a-limb.comnoreply@blogger.com